I help men who’ve worked hard to create incredible self-awareness and emotional intelligence take action to finally start living the life they are here to live.
"For over 25 years I've hired coaches for my business and my personal life. Nothing has impacted my life as deeply as working with Joseph."
— Jamie, Father, Husband, Musician and CEO
"There are only a few experiences or relationships that fundamentally alter the trajectory of a life. My relationship with Joseph is one of them."
— Alexander, Consultant, Musician, Comedian
Work with Joseph
If you've been following my work or someone who knows you well has referred you here because they want the best for you, then I hope you know that transformation isn't about fixing yourself or becoming someone else. It's about liberating what's been locked inside so you can actually be present to the beautiful world around you.
I help men reconnect with, reclaim, re-member, and reimagine who they are at a soul level.
This is for men who've already been working to liberate themselves, through therapy, men's circles, transformational experiences, psychedelics, embodiment, and who know there's a more expanded and whole version of themselves ready to wake up.
If you are ready to expand into what the heart longs for and what the soul desires without burning down what you love most in this one precious life, here are the ways you can work with me.
The Cauldron
90 Minute Session $300
A one-time deep dive where you get my full attention and honest feedback. We go straight to what matters most and co-create new perspectives, new possibilities, and action to help you move towards a meaningful moment in life.
This is especially powerful for:
Standing at a crossroads and needing clarity on a major life decision.
Preparing for or integrating a psychedelic journey.
Facing a difficult conversation you've been avoiding
Wrestling with a question that won't let you go.
Moments that you used to navigate alone, but now know that the mature choice is to enroll an ally that will meet you with infinite compassion and won’t let you play small.
If you're not ready to commit to a longer package but know you need support right now, this is your entry point. Don’t get stuck, get help.
Drop the Armor
3 to 4 Month Journey $3000
A ceremonial journey of becoming a more expanded version of yourself, without destroying everything you've built and love. Through our work together, you'll shed layers of protection that once served you but now keep you from living fully, in your relationships, your work, your body, and your soul.
Some sessions will include rituals and guided processes. Others will simply meet you where you are in the moment and follow what's alive.
You will be asked to come clean about your habits, behaviors, attachments, and addictions that are keeping you stuck in an old way of being. You will be fiercely supported to Drop the Armor and start loving yourself from the root to the crown.
This is about Authenticity, Sovereignty, Creative Potential, and showing up for yourself and your loved ones with an integrated head, heart, and soul.
This isn't a rigid program. It's a container that adapts to what you need as you move through it. The goal is simple: more groundedness, more clarity, more aliveness, and deeper alignment.
This is for men who are ready to create real change at a rooted level, not surface adjustments, but fundamental shifts in how you show up in your life.
At the Threshold
2 to 3 Month Ceremony $2000
Life transitions are initiations. Getting married or newly married. Becoming a father or living into a new realm within fatherhood. Changing careers or leaving a job that defined you. Moving toward or through divorce or a breakup. Integrating an experience, psychedelic, spiritual, or otherwise, that cracked you open and changed how you see the world. Standing in the aftermath of loss or upheaval.
When the ground is shifting beneath you, this work helps you cross the threshold with intention and integrity. We create a ritual container around your specific passage, hyper-focused specifically on helping you navigate this liminal time.
The eight sessions become a rite of passage, helping you let go of who you were and step into who you're becoming without abandoning yourself in the process.
This is for men who know they're in the middle of something significant and want to move through it consciously rather than sleepwalking or surviving it.
PRIVATE RETREATS & INTENSIVES
Bespoke, Co-Created
Private retreats and intensives are one-of-a-kind experiences; a multi-day immersion, a weekend ritual crafted around your exact question, or an intensive process tailored to your moment. We design it together based on what you need, and I hold the space for you to go as deep as you're ready to go.
These are for men who know they need something more immersive and are ready to step away from daily life to do the work.
Private one-day or multi-day rituals or ceremonies can be crafted for all of the moments mentioned in Crossing the Threshold or to create an in-person container for what would normally occur in Drop the Armor. Sometimes what you need can't fit into weekly sessions. You need concentrated time, held space, and a container designed specifically for what you're walking through.
Who I Work With
“I keep looking for one more teacher,
only to find that fish learn from water
and birds learn from sky.
If you want to learn about the sea,
it helps to be at sea.
If you want to learn about compassion,
it helps to be in love.
If you want to learn about healing,
it helps to know of suffering.
The strong live in the storm
without worshipping the storm.”
Maybe you've done therapy, men's circles, worked with coaches, read the books. Maybe psychedelics, breathwork, and breakthrough experiences. You've had insights. You're more self-aware. You've expanded. But life still doesn't feel the way you want it to feel. You're stuck in old patterns, and you're ready to meet what your soul truly longs for on the other side of a few small shifts.
This isn't about willpower or another system. It's soul work.
It’s time to learn to distinguish between what's real and what’s a distortion, a story, or anxiety. Between old childhood patterns and adult power. You're done with the ebb and flow from shame to grandiosity and back to shame.
This is the moment that you learn to move from performance and burnout to presence and resilience. From being stuck in your head, always trying to figure it out, to accessing your heart and soul and learning how to feel it out like an artist of your precious, magical life.
About Joseph
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I'm a husband in an intercultural marriage with a college professor working to make the world a safer, more compassionate more just place.
I'm the father of a two-and-a-half-year-old son who is brilliant, bold, brave, hilarious and as wild as they come. My most important job in this world is help both of them feel loved every single day, and do whatever I can for each of them to bring thier full soul and life force to this world.
And even after a dozen years doing transformational work, I still make mistakes in this role. I still fuck it up just like you. And every day, I recommit to love, compassion, creativity, and nourishing masculinity.
I believe that as a protector and provider it’s my privledge to protect thier hearts and provide them each a safe space to grow into the most nourished beings they can each become.
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For the past 10 years, I've been coaching, guiding, facilitating, and leading men's transformational work, both one-on-one and in community settings.
I don't pathologize. I don't hide behind the role of expert or title or degrees. I work within a framework of transformational relationships, relying on mutuality, vulnerability, radical co-creation, and use of the spiritual and sensual as power and medicine. For some men, this feels like having a trusted advisor they can finally be 100% themselves with. For others, it's like taking a course in ritual ways to connect with your unconscious and bring that material to light.
What sets my approach apart is that I'm modality-agnostic and pragmatic. I use what works for each individual man. We might work with symbols, archetypes, and nature. We'll set a foundation of emotional intelligence, motivational interviewing, and Internal Family Systems. We may explore the world around you through experiments, field trips and assignments. We'll journal, create art, and co-create a bespoke experience that allows you to fully connect with the practices and modalities that resonate for you.
I've spent years immersed in transformational communities. Most notably I spent 8 years in leadership in the Mankind Project and eventually sitting as LeaderBody Chair for the Mid-Atlantic Area. In 2021, I co-founded the DC Psychedelic Integration Circle, which continues as a thriving community providing harm reduction-focused peer support for people working with entheogen. For three years, I've been organizing, hosting and facilitating men's transformational retreats in West Virginia.
My training includes certifications and certificates from the Internal Family Systems Institute, Fluence, Psychedelics Today, Judaism Unbound, Warrior Compassion Studios, The Moxie School and the Institute for the Psychology of Eating. But ultimately, my real training has come from 10,000 hours of my own transformative process, self-study, and being in the field with human hearts and souls in a position to guide, mentor, coach, lead, and facilitate true transformation.
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My path into this work has come through multiple heartbreaks and then through finding true love and committing to a path of the heart.
The first big loss was in 2013, when my first marriage ended. At 31, I was 150 pounds overweight, stuck in a career that felt like a dead end, and in a painful relationship that had collapsed. That loss cracked something open. Over two years, I shed the weight, rebuilt my life, and found men’s groups, coaches, and therapy that helped me discover who I really was. That journey lit the fire to support other men.
The second heartbreak came five years later, when I ended another long-term relationship. This time, willpower and drive weren’t enough. In the midst of a dark night of the soul, I found my way to an Ayahuasca community, where I began to see how much of my life I had been leading through ego and force. In those first ceremonies, I finally met my grief and connected with the divine. Slowly, I learned another way rooted in heart, body, and soul.
Life has continued to initiate me with love. In 2022, I married my wife, Natalie. In 2023, we welcomed our son, Zamir. In just three years, we’ve lived in Washington, DC, Vermont, Berlin, and now central Pennsylvania, following Natalie’s dream career. Each transition has remade me, deepening my sense that my role is to nourish the souls of men, so they can go home and nourish the souls of their partners, children, families, and communities.
People often tell me my presence calms the wildest fires in their hearts or minds. They say I embody a rawness and authenticity they rarely find elsewhere, and that with me, they can share what they’ve never spoken to a partner or therapist. I offer men the chance to be fully themselves, messy, honest, and still grounded in dignity.
I love grounding our family at the hearth through these tender early years, and adventuring with Natalie and Zamir through both nature and culture. And my heart comes fully alive when I’m facilitating in-person retreats in the wild beauty of West Virginia, where men return to themselves in ways they never imagined possible.
Through retreats, ceremonies, mentorship, and coaching, I guide men into the very places we’ve been conditioned to avoid, and into the wholeness and belonging that waits on the other side.
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